I once experienced an attack by a man I did not know well. He pushed me down and suffocated me until I blacked out. I remember how scared I was when it happened. At the moment of suffocation, in my terror, I thought:
But he didn’t.
And at that point, fear and STOP joined together in my mind. I mixed the feeling of fear up with the desire to put on the brakes.
Even as an adult, for years, fear meant stop. Imagine how problematic that was for me. Having a baby? Scary – STOP! Leaving my marriage? Scary – STOP! Becoming a Nia Trainer? Scary – STOP!
Sometimes I would push through the fear and make myself do it. Other times I would think, well fear does mean stop, doesn’t it? And I would put the brakes on the things I really wanted.
But what if my feeling of fear doesn’t mean anything about what is going on around me. Feeling fear doesn’t mean I need to stop or change my circumstance or even figure things out. In fact, the only thing I know for sure is that my feelings are a reflection of what I think, and my thinking is changing all the time.
It sounds simple enough, 100% of the time feelings are coming from your thinking and thinking changes. But pay attention. How many times through the day do you credit other people or circumstances for the way you are feeling? Do you find yourself asking other people to do or say something so you will feel better? What if feeling’s only tell you about the quality of your thinking and not the quality of your life?
Secreted away within this exploration is the ultimate freedom – The Knowledge That We Think. It is worth every investigation.