Fleeting Self – Part 2

“I say there is this living reality, call it God, truth, or what you like, and it cannot be found or realized through search.  Where there is the implication of search, there must be contrast and duality” (Krishnamurti, P. 37)

Jeanne CatherineThe old paradigm is that human beings are dependent on their own idea of self, that they must define, capture and make permanent their own history of thought.  But this is the fundamental misunderstanding of human psychology.  Human beings are made up of thought in the moment.  Even memories are put together in the moment, again and again.  That thought appears familiar, real and compelling, that these memories can come alive; that is the gift of Mind, the gift that allows us to experience life.

Human beings fight, suffer, strive and collide based on a fundamental misunderstanding about who they think they are and the unfortunate conception that felt experiences come from somewhere other then energy flow from within.

The field of psychology has alluded to this understanding in it’s own way.  Immanual Kant (1724-1804), inspired by Copernicus’s insistence that the earth was not the center of the solar system, endeavored to examine psychological thought from a completely new frame of reference.  Kant argued, “experience was actually shaped by our concepts rather than the other way around” (Benjafield, P.18).

And William James (1842-1910), called the father of American Psychology stated, “The only thing which psychology has a right to postulate at the outset is the fact of thinking itself” (p.224).

Through out the centuries, a variety of religious leaders and philosophers, have examined the energy flow of thought and pronounced it to be the source of our experience.  Once the field of psychology embraces thought as an energy flow of information, which shapes our experiences of life.  Once the paradigm shifts, there will be a revolution in human consciousness.

The understanding of the flow of energy as the source of my human experience has changed how I live my life.   And I have seen my client’s lives significantly impacted by seeing feelings as a result of thought in the moment and nothing else.  It is the single most impactful conversation anyone in the field of psychology can have today.

Join us tonight at 6 pm for only 15$ to hear Dr. Dicken Bettinger share the simplicity and practicality of understanding the source of your experience and the impact that understanding can have on your life!   Buy your ticket

Freedom From Stress Workshop Begins Tomorrow!  3 spots left!  Grab your spot now!

References From Today’s Blog: This blog is based on the work of Sydney Banks and the following readings were quoted.

Benjafield, John. (2012) Psychology, A Concise History. Oxford University Press.

Krishnamurti, J. (1996) Total Freedom, The Essential Krishnamurti.  Harper Collins Publishers.

James, William. (1890) The Principles of Psychology, Volume One. Dover Publications, Inc.

The Fleeting Self: Part I

When describing Mind, Neurobiologist Dan Siegal shares: “it is a system that entails the flow of energy and information within the brain and between one another.”

Jean New FavoriteThe Fleeting Self

The things that people use to define themselves seem so momentary, fleeting. The self is not a measurable quantity as I once imagined it to be. There is no set aspect of me that makes this form (me) permanent or constant. In fact, the very idea that we are something limits the infinite potential of each moment.

I imagine the idea of the fleeting self would sound strange to most people. After all, wasn’t it “me” who is described as being passionate, direct, and loving? And isn’t it “I” who adopted my children, who facilitates perspective and understanding, who is pursuing both academic study and real world applications?

I believed in the “I” and the “me” for so long that I thought my personality was set. As if it was something bequeathed upon me at birth, or developed and permanent via environment, or written in the stars. And while all of these may still be true, here is something that is also possible.

It is possible to wake up to the impermanence of conceptual thinking. The idea of who “I am” limits my ability to see my self fresh, moment to moment. And with just a little bit of inquiry, “Wait a minute. Am I ‘depressed’ or is this a passing feeling unrelated to who I am?” A space opens in the mind, the observation changes the results – it always does.

You don’t have to “make” this work. You don’t have to decide now, “Yeah I want to change this about my self and be a better person.” In fact, any concept of the personal mind, “I have to change this about me,” becomes a limit, an obstacle.

So what can you do? How does change happen and how do you live with your “Self”?

The answer is simple, present and moment to moment. The Mind, flow of information, allows for a variable response at all times.  The answer is now, and now and now. Every time you get caught in “oh no, I am this” put it down, step away. Let your mind fall open to another state, another being, another and far simpler “you.”

Join us to go deeper into freedom and ease with Dr. Dicken Bettinger’s “Freedom From Stress” Public Talk and Workshop. Coming up April 11th!

Beyond Fear: For Everybody

Yesterday I received a call asking for information about my upcoming workshop this Saturday, Beyond Fear. The person wanted to know what we were going to talk about? What was the process and what could be expected?

I explained that we would not be doing therapy and that the people are warm, the conversation is light hearted, and no one minds if you laugh or cry – that is just a part of being human. Jean w:group

I shared how the human experience works from the inside out: that people’s felt experience comes from thought in the moment (called the Three Principles). And, in my experience, this is a powerful and impactful conversation. While I can’t promise results like weight loss, avoiding divorce, or making more money, I have seen every single person who committed to having the conversation benefit in significant ways that changed their felt experience of life. Not one person who has paid and completed a program at Divine Play has regretted it.

As a client and a student, I have participated in a lot of process, techniques, approaches, and philosophies.  The simple truth is this: the Three Principles conversation is the single most effective human potential conversation I have ever seen. The end result of this conversation is insight, and insight has a significant impact on thriving.

The Three Principles themselves say nothing about how a person should live, what a person should do, or if there is a god. But they do, very simply, explain the facts of human suffering and human happiness. The “why” behind human felt experience, and the longer a person lingers in the conversation, the more they see. The more insight they have, the more answers they get, the simpler life looks and the more likely they are to follow their internal wisdom on a range of difficult topics.

The only thing that stands in your way of living a more integrated life is thought in the moment.  And as soon as you see that deeply, life will rise up to greet you in a brand new way.

Join us at Divine Play this Saturday from 10 – 4 for Beyond Fear: A Workshop For Everyone.

The Missing Link

J and J cropped“We are so quick to identify with things happening to us from the outside in.”
- client insight, Chad Langston

It is tempting, isn’t it? After all, my husband really did leave a huge mess in the living room, or I really didn’t get enough sleep last night, or my computer really did lose my favorite photos – or whatever.

It is the easiest thing in the world to forget that there is no repeatable outside experience which has the same results for every human being. In other words, what is happening outside of us doesn’t actually explain how we react to and experience life. Two people can be in the same car, having the same dance, hurt by the same person or in the same way, and still come out with completely different experiences.

What explains why the human experience is so variable? There is really only one explanation, what is happening out there isn’t what we are experiencing. Instead we experience what is arising within. So much thought happens every day, that we can’t keep track of it all. Thought is streaming through us and we catch a small bit of it. In the midst of all this thought, our felt mental states change – meaning we feel happy, sad, groggy, tired, excited, and on and on. We have feelings; regardless of circumstance, feelings keep happening. The misunderstanding is that feelings tell us something about the situation we are in, or the environment we grew up in, or about something that happened to us.

Please, don’t jump to conclusions. I am not talking about positive thinking, biofeedback, re-framing your story or whatever. I am not giving out solutions to your latest greatest “now this really sucks.” And I am not suggesting that anything you are thinking about this blog right now is true or real or has anything to do with what I am sharing.

In fact, the only way to really go deeper and discover a freedom to being human, that most people wait a lifetime and never really see, is to join in a conversation. A simple discussion, where you get to ask questions, explore what you hear and take a chance at seeing something more than you already know.

Join us at Divine Play for a complimentary public talk, The Missing Link, on Sunday, March 16th, aimed at helping the community raise consciousness, decrease conflict, and increase quality of mind and well being. Friends are welcome.

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