Last year was a crazy year for me, and my family. From false accusations to a cancer diagnosis to a major custody battle, my family did it all. While I was not always calm, cool and collected – I cried hysterically on the phone with Aaron Turner and yelled at Michael Neill at the top of my lungs – I did learn a lot about my mental health.
It turns out that my mental health is not related to the injuries I endured as a child or to the unhealthy relationship I left as an adult. I am not a victim to my ex, and I am not responsible for his behavior. The simplest and most apparent fact is that my mental health is dependent on my ability to see myself as human.
Human beings have all kinds of thinking, they feel all kinds of emotions, and they live in all kinds of circumstances. Human beings are sometimes kind and sometimes unkind. Human beings sometimes know what to do and sometimes don’t know what to do. Human beings have access to the most profound wisdom and the most ridiculous or harmful thinking. Some humans spend their time attempting to figure out why the world is the way it is, why they are the way they are and what can they do to change it. Some humans feel whole and complete even if they don’t know the answers.
I am human. I am born into a body. I live in the world. I work, I play, I love, and I feel crazy sometimes. If the word crazy frightens you, then use a different word. Use angry, hopeless, alone – put in any emotion you want. The Simple Truth is that these are human emotions. You will have them no matter where you live, no matter what happens to you, no matter how enlightened you are.
The Simple Truth is that you are human. You are just like me. You are not alone. You are not forgotten. You feel and act wisely, and sometimes you let your upset get the better of you. Sometimes your upsets define how you will speak to your four year old step-daughter, or your 40 year old husband, or your 70 year old mother. Other times your wisdom defines you.
The more you see your well being and the more you know that you are human, the easier it will be to follow your wisdom and the more gracefully you will fumble through your humanity.
This is what I learned last year. We are not alone. We are part of a whole. We are human. Accept the gift and be set free.
Curious? Want to find your simple truth? Grab one of the six spots left on May 15th, 16th and 17th for a deeper look at your mental health and humanity.